Living Open
Spirituality through these eyes is all inclusive.
No topic is off the table.
I myself have walked the path of addiction, homelessness, money problems, relationship and intimacy issues, and of course the challenges and blessings of sex.
Sex has developed for me as I’ve gotten older. I have experienced change in my own self pleasure and the relationship with my own body, sex with partners of course has become much freer and more intimate, and then there is an awareness of sexuality around others out in the world.
My sex has moved from the privacy of a bedroom, or the shame of a computer screen, to the passion of a couch or staircase, and more importantly and in a non literal way, out into the world as an energy, a communication of innocence.
I mean sex has moved far beyond being only a physical act. It’s an energy, a connection between men and women, it’s a connection between all people. Sexuality is an openness, a willingness to be seen, to be accepted, loved, or ignored and rejected.
When I use the word sex these days it is an umbrella term that encapsulates so much more of life.
This is living open.
Let me give you an example:
I have spoken before about a common complaint I often hear from women clients who only seem to encounter closed-hearted men. Could it be possible that many women move through the world unknowingly with their own hearts closed? Are they refusing to open up until they meet that one right man? Do they “protect” their hearts? Their answer with enough questioning is always Yes.
What they don’t see is that by moving through the world protected, closed, awaiting this man to open them up, means they are only going to attract their reflection, a protected, closed-hearted man. Simply put, they are meeting their own energetic reflection.
Being open is risky, it can be painful, heartbreaking, but it’s real, and alive, free flowing, unknowing, unmanaged, and rewarding.
Believe me this is not my default state. To live like this is a continual test. All I can do is my best to move in this direction and nurture myself along the path.
If your spirituality excludes the subject of sex, ask yourself why would you deny your own spiritual awareness to pour into the intimacy and pleasure of your sexual relationships, with others, or with yourself?
Spirituality involves the whole Being. No areas of our lives are off limits. If we seek to progress spiritually, to flow with this life force within us then we must be open to where the flow takes us. On this path we may feel moved to question our career path or spending habits, for example almost every client I have sooner or later must question alcohol as it has consistently proven to be very unhelpful with opening the heart. Sex of course is a highly charged subject and it’s only a matter of time until we all must address it, and our relationship to our own sexuality.
The rewards are worth it, if you crave the sexual surrender of having your hair pulled by your partner while being spanked, or open hearted intense love making with a long time lover, or a quick fuck in the restaurant cubicle before the main course, read on.
By being truly home with ourselves we no longer abandon ourselves for the sake of love or play. We are in tune with what feels rewarding, risky, enjoyable and safe.
Many single clients I have worked with have met new partners, of a different quality after working with me. Think about it, as we learn to open our hearts and allow our sexuality to flow, of course other people are going to notice us!
So in this article :
We’ll look for our walls and blocks and also the joy and play and intimacy we are missing out on.
Once seeing these walls what can we do to bring about growth, change, new life, to open up, to blossom.
Below I outline how you can quickly see why you may be triggered in relation to sex and how to work through it. You will quickly see results in your own sexuality and relationships with others.